|It is hard to imagine that Sharon Denise Allison-Ottey
is every bit as great as an author as she is a health educator/physician--
but her first novel is the undisputable testimony to that truth.
I absolutely love, "All I Ever Did was Love a Man,"
have read it twice and highly recommend it. Thank you, Sharon
Allison-Ottey for making a cruel reality so easily digestible
and understandable. This book will help a lot of women."
Ms. Cathy Hughes
Founder and Chairperson of Radio One Inc
|"This book is destined for 'best-seller'
status! The characters are vibrant and portrayed with passion
and depth. The story is compelling; both eliciting laughter
and jerking tears at just the right times. Most of all, the
underlying message of AIDS as something we must not relegate
to a 'certain' community or 'type' or 'socio-economic' class
is overwhelming. Sharon Ottey has raised the bar with this book.
I recommend it without reservation."
Dr. Teresa Hairston
Publisher, Gospel Today Magazine
|Bravo, one of the most well written books I have ever read.
The author grabs you with the first page, taking you on an emotional
journey as if you are right there. This is a must book to read
by all. It will leave you definitely wanting more. Hope Oprah
gets a copy.
Sylvia Price Clinton, MD
This book totally spoke to me. I am in awe of the writing and
the ability to pull me to the characters. I actually saw it
in my head as a movie---I would love to see it on screen. I
am Sabrena…I desperately want love, needed love and would
do anything for a piece of love. I didn’t get HIV/AIDS
but I did get herpes from my unfaithful husband and I deal with
it. I had to learn to love myself more and to keep moving. I
could relate to the relationship with Rachel because it was
my friend that helped me through this rough time. This book
is AWESOME and EVERY woman should read it no matter where you
are in life---it’s a wakeup call.
Logan Pittsburgh, PA
This book has changed my life! My best friend sent it to me
after hearing you speak and getting an autographed copy for
me. I read it in less than a week and I must tell you that I
am Sabrena! I called a clinic and went in for testing for HIV
but also for my general health. I got a mammogram for the first
time in life, I am 42. I am compelled to take care of myself
and to protect myself—not just sexually but in all aspects.
My 17 year old son is reading it now and I am going to have
a full discussion on the book and sexuality. You have really
written a winner—I can’t wait for more! I hope you
come to Miami—I’ll be the first in line!
Melissa Miami, Fla
This is a great book which I picked up at the airport. I can’t
tell you how much I enjoyed it and have passed it to my 17 year
old daughter. I don’t know how I just “happened”
to see it and pick it up—I did immediately recognize your
name so I wanted to read your work. Great job, kept my interest
and more importantly ---I GOT the message! Thanks for not showing
all men as creeps. I am a male fan!
Victor Houston, Tx
While listening to the Michael Baisden Show and HIV discussion
was very strong. The book was mentioned and I went straight
to the website and I am impressed just by reading the on-line
information. I love reading novels, especially those that not
only offer entertainment but teaches a good lesson. I definitely
will be reading this one. Staying informed about this disease
helps me to stay on top of my game!!!
Tammy Waynesboro, GA
I read many books this year, because I do book reviews as a
hobbie, this book had a personal effect on me in many ways because
of close friends of mine that are living with this illness HIV/AIDS.
I want to wish Ms. Ottey lots of luck in the near future with
Dee Marcus Norfolk, VA
Laughter, Tears, Heartache and Hope—that is what I got
from reading this book. Thank you for such a great novel.
This book was wonderful, couldn’t put it down, have told
many friends to read it and even loaned the book to a couple
of friends and they had nothing but good things to say…Job
well down Dr. Sharon… Hope to read many more!!
Sherri Samuel Lanham, MD
I am a 33 year old white female with AIDS, I was diagnosed in
January 2006. I must tell you that I thought of suicide and
made plans to kill myself after being told. One of my dearest
friends heard you on radio and bought this book for me which
I did not read for weeks because I was in denial. I have one
son that is 6 and he is the only reason that I get up each morning.
Eventually, I picked up the book and it was unlike what I thought.
I loved the story line and for other reasons so identified with
the main character. Thank you for taking my call and talking
to me about my struggle—I believe that you saved my life.
I can tell you that I am making the choice as Vance told Sabrena—to
live. That letter spoke to my heart and life in a way that is
simply indescribable and I can’t thank you or God enough
for your writing. I am living with this disease and am blessed
every day to be alive. I WILL see my son graduate from high
school and I AM going to live—follow doctor’s orders,
take meds and make it. As you said to me—“AIDS is
not who you are, you tell the world who you are.” Dr.
Sharon, I am telling the world that I am strong, I am committed
and I am a mother to my child. There is no one else for him
and leaving him is not an option so I am going to do everything
I can and pray for God’s direction. Thank you for writing
the novel and despite you being very busy and so well known—for
taking a call from me—a person that you don’t even
know. I heard love and concern in your voice and read it in
your writing. Please pray for me and my son as we discussed.
I thank you so much, I gave my mother a copy of the book and
AFTER she read it we talked. I found the courage to tell her
and I know that her reaction was different because she read
the book. I am taking this one step at a time but again—thank
you for saving my live.
This book is like a vacuum. Once you start reading it, it sucks
you into the life of Sabrena and her journey. We can all see
a bit of us in Sabrena, in as much as, most of us desire to
have unconditional love and “all we ever did was love
a man” to try and get it. It is a must read!
The novel is life changing! I love the writing style and how
you just captured me in the first pages. I laughed, cried, saw
myself and friends all thorough this book. I also saw a lot
about relationships and the way that women make choices out
of their pain. I read to the very end and was blown away! God
Bless you and I look for the MOVIE and other books!
Phenomenal novel! I loved it from beginning to end—not
just a woman’s story! The characters are well drawn and
tangible. The plot and subplot is realistic—I look forward
to reading more. Thanks for not male bashing!
Johnathan V. Philadelphia, PA
Absolutely wonderful book that has changed my life and my views.
I am a gay, white male and I never knew or related to the issue
of women with HIV/AIDS. I have been positive for 9 years and
you opened my eyes to my “sisters” in the struggle.
Winston Paris, France
|My book club just finished reading your book and all of us
(16) agree that this is the BEST book that we’ve read
in our 4 year history! This book and the study guide is GREAT.
Thanks for sending the DVD---great job. I am now recommending
that my sorority read it and host you if it works out! Please
come to Atlanta for book signing. The characters are so vivid
and I love the relationship between Sabrena and her friends—Rach
but also Vance added another dimension. I see that you’ve
gotten great reviews and you deserve it !
Gwen Atlanta, GA
I just finished All I Ever Did Was Love a Man and as a woman
that is diagnosed with HIV/AIDS I must tell you that I am forever
changed. The way in which you dealt with the diagnosis, the
fact that my life does not end and that I am still a woman is
unlike any I’ve seen before. I was infected after 6 years
of marriage by my husband who was unfaithful throughout the
marriage. I had no idea and I believed that I was with the man
sent from God for me. He was living another life—not with
men—but with 2 other women whom he infected as well. He
found out his status AFTER I was diagnosed by my doctor because
of anemia that I thought was from fibroids. I have a 5 year
old son and I am grateful that he is not positive. I am very
active in my sorority and in my church—ironically—my
book club picked this book as a read and had no idea of my diagnosis.
I must admit that I have not been strong enough to tell them
but I can tell you that my heart was warmed and I feel safer
in bringing up the conversation after hearing them talk about
this book. Many of them admitted that their opinions had changed
and they were amazed with the health information in the back
and the statistics. Thank you for writing this book---I feel
like it is “My Story”, the ironic thing is that
I still want to be loved. I am separated from my husband, but
yes I am still a woman and HIV/AIDS is only one face of me.
I am Mommy to my baby and a teacher with 4th graders that need
me. Thank you for telling this story—my book club gave
it the highest rating we’ve ever given a book.
Taffany Brooklyn, NY
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, I couldn’t stop reading
it. I have already recommended it to several people and plan
to tell others. It is a must read. Even though it is fiction,
it is so true to life. It kept me wanting more, thanks for such
a wonderful story.
R. Wilson Maryland
Kudos to the author—this book was a great read for me.
I must admit that I was self conscious about the title and letting
others see me read it because I am a guy. However, once I started
I had to keep going! In this day with all of the JUNK coming
from writers that are really pornographic, degrading to women
and filled with filthy language---it was refreshing to read
something with a great storyline, some mystery and a WOW twist
at the end. Tell me was Steve for real or was it all a game—why
did you end it like that? I thought he was reformed or did he
fool me. Again, KUDOS and certainly the message of HIV/AIDS
in this context is one that I could read as a story. I would
have never read this if it were only about the disease, I’m
sorry but I wouldn’t---BRILLANT way to entertain and teach.
This is a great book and I recommend it highly. May God Bless
you and propel this book forward! I want to see a MOVIE—it’s
Malcolm Chicago, Illinois